Things that happily married couples do

I was reading this article about 5 Things Super-Happy Couples Do Every Day and feel it’s good topic to share. If you are wondering how I found this article, I just added new apps to iPhone called Zinio and I saw free magazine called WebMD, so I went to ‘google’ it because I had never read it before. There I found a site with a lot of articles about almost everything. Hehe!

I consider us to be happily married couple and I agree with what the article shares. I agree that communication is the most important ingredient in marriage. It’s not just any kind of communication but preferably heart-to-heart sharing between two persons. I’m lucky that I spend a lot of time with my darling, just talking. Or rather gossiping. Haha! We spend at least 30-45 minutes daily to work, talking in the car. Similarly, we spend as much time during our trip after work, talking too. I truly appreciate such times every day. Our conversation is not fixed but normally we just talk about the gossip in the office. Haha! Or just catch up on anything funny that happened that day. We also constantly online during office hour, though our real chatting time is less than 1 hour daily if nothing urgent to talk about. Talking or sharing in my opinion is the only way to connect with each other in marriage. It keeps us close together.

The article advises that we should do more silly things together. Laughter is the best medicine. You won’t believe how much silly things we still do in our married life. He always makes fun of my turtle toys and it makes me laugh. We always call each others funny nicknames too. Just as if we are still children. I even have name for his belly. Unfortunately, he also has name for my belly. Haha!

Intimacy is another major part in a marriage. I’m not only talking about sex. The article already makes its point that we cannot expect our sex life to be as when we were younger. We simply don’t have the time and energy for such ‘physical’ exercise. Haha! However, intimacy is never lacking in our life. I always ask for a hug in the morning for no particular reason. He always loves my hands and knees, saying that he can just have them for dinner and he will just take a bite while saying that. (Sorry, if that’s too much information!) I often complain that he’s a cannibal and I have all the teeth marks as prove. Haha!

Another thing that we do as mentioned in the article is spending time together yet giving each others some space. We spend as much time together as possible every day. He never leaves me to go any way alone and vice versa. He would participate in all my gatherings even if he’s the only male in the group. I would go with him to any places even if that place was the car garage or accessories shop. I even waited for hours at those places with him. Yet, we don’t feel we have no personal space in life. No, the trick is I leave him to do whatever he wants within my vicinity. I don’t care if he spent time fixing his car or tidying his stuff, as long as he’s in the house. I guess his presence is very important to me and it’s best not to make him feel that I always demand his attention. He also always leaves me to my TV in the room while he does something else in the living room. That’s our trick for spending time together yet we don’t feel suffocated with each others. Hehe!

One last point that we have been doing to keep our marriage happy is compassion and support. We always feel for each other emotionally. I support him in whatever decisions he made, even that mean spending a few thousands on gadgets. Hehe! Most importantly, do not castigate each other, no matter what’s happened. Mistakes are one of many things that are unavoidable in life, therefore there’s no point to put condemn or critic to make each others feel worse.

Happy marriage doesn’t come naturally. It requires hard work and effort from two persons to be happy together. Be sure of one thing, though: it’s a blessing that one can share a life journey together with another person and I’m lucky to have him in my life.

Do you have other good tips in making your marriage happy? Do share, thanks!

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